How This Montana Girl Makes Her Long Distant Relationship Work
It's hard. Being a single parent is one of the most difficult tasks I have ever taken on. We know as humans, that when we bring a child into this world, we no longer are number one. We are no longer the top priority. If you don't feel good, you don't get to take a hot shower and sleep away the afternoon in hopes of feeling better in the morning. Nope. You have to still make dinner, make snacks, clean the house, finish the laundry, and don't forget, make sure everything is ready for the next day.
When I moved to Montana, being a single parent was not anything new. I have been a single parent for 13 years. I remember growing up and having this thought or more so image of what life would be like when I got married, had a kid, or two, a sweet dog, and splitting holidays with my husbands family and my own. Well that clearly did not happen in that order and some of it, not even at all. Am I disappointed? I wouldn't say that. I would say I am more or a realist to think that those types of scenarios happen to everyone. So now I live by, "it is what it is", or "tomorrow is a new day". It seems to work for a majority of the time.
A year and a half ago I met someone. He was younger, kind, knew I wasn't going to have anymore children, and most importantly, he was understanding. To say we are perfect would be a lie. But what we do have is communication, honesty, passion, and well...800 miles between us. A long distant relationship is far from easy, but we make it work. He has met my family, my kiddo, and my most of my best friends. They adore him. I'm going to travel 9.764 miles, 3 days on a plane, and a 7 hour time difference to meet his family. Hopefully they like me because that is a damn long ways to go and have them not...but, "it is what it is".
To make my relationship work, it is rather simple. First you both have to want it to work. You have to both understand that, although it would be great to watch movies every night, have dinner every night, and sleep next to each other every night, it isn't going to happen. When we do get to do those things, we really appreciate each other. We enjoy the little things. We appreciate the time we do get, and tell each other we miss each other when we are apart. I can not say enough, communication is key, and facetime helps. They say, "Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder", so far this is true. As for the future, well, I will keep you updated, because "tomorrow is a new day".