Why Couples Fight
eHarmony came up with a list of the most common reasons why couple fight. What do you and your partner fight about? Mike and I don’t fight much, but when we do, it’s usually because I feel like I am not getting enough help around the house, and with kids, etc.
- 1. Money Matters: Not surprisingly, both men and women confess to arguing about finances. Whether it’s who is spending too much or who may be a bit frugal, it’s an issue big enough to split some couples up. To merge or not to merge bank accounts? That is the question — and something to figure out.
- 2. Free Time: Who on earth argues about the precious gift that is free time? Couples! She wants him to spend more time just hanging with her, while he really needs his bonding time with the boys. The best advice in this scenario is to find someone equally independent, and willing to compromise. And as far as this photo is concerned – maybe this girlfriend should have let her boyfriend go jogging alone!
- 3. Jealousy: ‘I saw you looking at her!’ ‘I don’t want you going to lunch with him.’ This relationship killer is at the center of many, many squabbles. While many men and women have no reason to be jealous (and could be just controlling and insecure), there are boundary issues which every couple should clearly define together.
- 4. Household Chores: ‘I’m a guy so I take out the garbage, and you do the laundry.’ While some women are perfectly cool with this, others may love hauling out the trash (well, maybe that’s a stretch). The bottom line is not to assume that one gender will automatically take care of certain responsibilities. Talk it out together and figure out what is going to work best for both parties. The solution may just be a housekeeper!